Hibernation apologies are bland, boring, and pointless as I can't promise I won't go into blogging hibernation again in the future. Still, most readers wouldn't want to know or care what I've been doing since I last posted in October anyway, so I won't waste your time and attention. But what I can promise is three posts which will be published over the next three weeks. So stay tuned.
Some may have noticed, or you may now notice since I've brought your attention to it, that I have not posted as many official posts to Facebook since the middle of November (a bit ironic since the majority of you will be notified to the publishing of this post by its' presence on Facebook). Yes, I've posted pictures and other shares thus making it appear as if I've been on Facebook when in reality I've been taking an extended break. I learned a very valuable lesson while fasting from FB: I am way too self-centered. Checking into FB became more about what my notification bar looked like rather than seeing what the worlds of others looked like from their status updates and pictures. My motivation for posting things to FB then became how I could grab attention, garner a reaction, or gain as many "likes" as I could. As this insatiable desire for more and more "attention" continued to grow I began to self-internalize my worth based on the responses I would or wouldn't get from my posts. "Well that one sucked because I only received ten likes rather than the twenty-five I've averaged over the last six posts." As silly as it may sound, stop for a moment and consider your motivation for posting to social media sites. If your motivation for posting rarely if ever was to engender a response and the thought never even crossed your mind, then I applaud you. But for those whom this thought strikes a little closer to home, you know where I'm coming from. The more I did it the more lonely I felt.
The rewiring of our brains to focus exclusively on ourselves is the pitfall of social media. Sure, it can be enjoyable, even relaxing. If so, keep it that way and never let yourself begin to believe the lie which whispers "your worth is dependent on the responses you get" because it simply isn't true.
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